Comments for A Victorious Woman http://avictoriouswoman.com Empowering minds one thought at a time Wed, 13 Jan 2010 20:07:08 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 hourly 1 Comment on The Sound of Silence by bmahone http://avictoriouswoman.com/the-sound-of-silence/comment-page-1/#comment-449 bmahone Wed, 13 Jan 2010 20:07:08 +0000 http://avictoriouswoman.com/?p=96#comment-449 I haven't seen the movie and I don't think I'm really interested in seeing it. Sadly, there are some women who choose to put a man over their child. It doesn't make any sense to me but I guess that's the reality of part of the world we live in. A really good person to talk to about abuse is fellow Diva, Jaisun, who wrote her own book about it. Even celebrities go through "stuff" like that. I haven’t seen the movie and I don’t think I’m really interested in seeing it. Sadly, there are some women who choose to put a man over their child. It doesn’t make any sense to me but I guess that’s the reality of part of the world we live in.

A really good person to talk to about abuse is fellow Diva, Jaisun, who wrote her own book about it. Even celebrities go through “stuff” like that.

]]> Comment on The Sound of Silence by karen http://avictoriouswoman.com/the-sound-of-silence/comment-page-1/#comment-447 karen Tue, 12 Jan 2010 00:50:40 +0000 http://avictoriouswoman.com/?p=96#comment-447 Diane Thanks for your comment. Diane
Thanks for your comment.

]]> Comment on The Sound of Silence by DianeM http://avictoriouswoman.com/the-sound-of-silence/comment-page-1/#comment-445 DianeM Sun, 10 Jan 2010 23:08:31 +0000 http://avictoriouswoman.com/?p=96#comment-445 I agree completely, Karen. It's hard to understand, unless you've gone through it yourself. We have to remember that if someone truly loves and cares for you, they won't hurt you. I agree completely, Karen. It’s hard to understand, unless you’ve gone through it yourself. We have to remember that if someone truly loves and cares for you, they won’t hurt you.

]]> Comment on The Sound of Silence by karen http://avictoriouswoman.com/the-sound-of-silence/comment-page-1/#comment-444 karen Thu, 07 Jan 2010 05:56:55 +0000 http://avictoriouswoman.com/?p=96#comment-444 Pam People stay in abusive relationships for all kinds of reasons. When you really love someone, it's hard to go. When you have deep convictions, it's hard to betray them. And sometimes you just don't want to be lonely or you think you can't do any better. I believe Precious' mother's reason was more of the latter. But whatever the reason, the price doesn't seem worth paying for, especially when someone else, like a child, is paying with you, and especially to the degree presented in the movie. Very happy that you and your children are okay. Pam
People stay in abusive relationships for all kinds of reasons. When you really love someone, it’s hard to go. When you have deep convictions, it’s hard to betray them. And sometimes you just don’t want to be lonely or you think you can’t do any better. I believe Precious’ mother’s reason was more of the latter. But whatever the reason, the price doesn’t seem worth paying for, especially when someone else, like a child, is paying with you, and especially to the degree presented in the movie. Very happy that you and your children are okay.

]]> Comment on The Sound of Silence by Pam Archer http://avictoriouswoman.com/the-sound-of-silence/comment-page-1/#comment-443 Pam Archer Thu, 07 Jan 2010 05:15:19 +0000 http://avictoriouswoman.com/?p=96#comment-443 I haven't seen the movie, but I've heard about it. I've read several autobiographies written by abused people. I was in an abusive situation. I tried to stick it out, because I didn't want to go through the shame of divorce again, but my children didn't want me to leave him. It came to the point that I refused to allow any more physical, verbal, or emotional abuse to any of us. I got us out of there as quickly as I could. I still feel guilt that I didn't get out sooner and that we all bear the scars of staying with him for 13 years. I haven’t seen the movie, but I’ve heard about it. I’ve read several autobiographies written by abused people. I was in an abusive situation. I tried to stick it out, because I didn’t want to go through the shame of divorce again, but my children didn’t want me to leave him. It came to the point that I refused to allow any more physical, verbal, or emotional abuse to any of us. I got us out of there as quickly as I could. I still feel guilt that I didn’t get out sooner and that we all bear the scars of staying with him for 13 years.

]]> Comment on The Sound of Silence by karen http://avictoriouswoman.com/the-sound-of-silence/comment-page-1/#comment-442 karen Thu, 07 Jan 2010 04:10:40 +0000 http://avictoriouswoman.com/?p=96#comment-442 You make a good point, Debbie. EVERYONE needs to speak up. You make a good point, Debbie. EVERYONE needs to speak up.

]]> Comment on The Sound of Silence by Debbie Barth http://avictoriouswoman.com/the-sound-of-silence/comment-page-1/#comment-441 Debbie Barth Wed, 06 Jan 2010 23:35:36 +0000 http://avictoriouswoman.com/?p=96#comment-441 What disturbes me is how prevalent physical abuse really is. What disturbs me even more, is that it continues to be huge problem because of women like her who have no self-esteem, and a distorted perception of self-preservation at the cost of her child's well-being. Now, what makes me even more disturbed is people minding their own business! Yep, people minding there own business and looking the other way when they know that a child (theirs or someone else's) is being abused. I believe the more we get involved, the more children can be helped out of these situations. The more we all speak up against physical abuse, the greater the chance the children will realize that this isn't a normal and acceptable way of life. If it makes us feel uncomfortable or "threatened" to get involved, that's understandable. But to sit and do nothing ... that's inexcusable. What disturbes me is how prevalent physical abuse really is. What disturbs me even more, is that it continues to be huge problem because of women like her who have no self-esteem, and a distorted perception of self-preservation at the cost of her child’s well-being. Now, what makes me even more disturbed is people minding their own business! Yep, people minding there own business and looking the other way when they know that a child (theirs or someone else’s) is being abused. I believe the more we get involved, the more children can be helped out of these situations. The more we all speak up against physical abuse, the greater the chance the children will realize that this isn’t a normal and acceptable way of life. If it makes us feel uncomfortable or “threatened” to get involved, that’s understandable. But to sit and do nothing … that’s inexcusable.

]]> Comment on The Sound of Silence by karen http://avictoriouswoman.com/the-sound-of-silence/comment-page-1/#comment-440 karen Tue, 05 Jan 2010 12:25:13 +0000 http://avictoriouswoman.com/?p=96#comment-440 Kim I can truly understand your objections to this movie. I debated whether I would watch it myself. It was only after I read Tyler Perry's email, which talked about some of the abuse he suffered, that I decided to see it. It was every bit of horrible I could have imagined. Kim
I can truly understand your objections to this movie. I debated whether I would watch it myself. It was only after I read Tyler Perry’s email, which talked about some of the abuse he suffered, that I decided to see it. It was every bit of horrible I could have imagined.

]]> Comment on The Sound of Silence by karen http://avictoriouswoman.com/the-sound-of-silence/comment-page-1/#comment-439 karen Tue, 05 Jan 2010 12:19:54 +0000 http://avictoriouswoman.com/?p=96#comment-439 Pittershawn Unfortunately, you are right. This is the fate some girls live with even today. That's why it's more important than ever to bring it out into the open. To keep it on downlow would be a license to let it continue. Pittershawn
Unfortunately, you are right. This is the fate some girls live with even today. That’s why it’s more important than ever to bring it out into the open. To keep it on downlow would be a license to let it continue.

]]> Comment on The Sound of Silence by karen http://avictoriouswoman.com/the-sound-of-silence/comment-page-1/#comment-438 karen Tue, 05 Jan 2010 12:17:10 +0000 http://avictoriouswoman.com/?p=96#comment-438 I feel you, Nariscia. Even when a person has been damaged, as Precious' mother obviously had, I believe something in them can still recognize the wrong in their actions at some point. I don't think this woman was ready to face it. I feel you, Nariscia. Even when a person has been damaged, as Precious’ mother obviously had, I believe something in them can still recognize the wrong in their actions at some point. I don’t think this woman was ready to face it.

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